Love is me.

Twist, twist, twist

Muscle around the bone.

Blood rushes,

Flooding.

The complexity of these tissues

to make one position in space.

A machine of flesh, organ and cell.

Big, small and in between.

All of this…is me.

Twisting in Space.

Working my body to fit in position.

Not a position I chose for myself.

Not entirely.

Some fits and some constraints.

When the twisting is no longer possible.

I STOP.

I BREAK.

My bones have grown weary

to be in this constricted place.

From MY mind.

From Scolding.

From SHAME.

None of it my natural design.

But one I did Embrace.

One I gave to be mine

Because of some flaw I thought I was;

Not Good Enough

Not worthy

and Lacking.

It’s not true.

It is a lie.

I am not the muscle, bone, blood or cell.

I am the one who surrounds

who holds this possibility

who is the thing

that is bigger than what

my eyes can see

It is a space held by ME.

Who am I?

I AM LOVE

 

 

 

and forever shall it be.

Scaredy cats do not follow the call of their hearts. LOVE Warriors do.

 You know those times where you have heard someone say, “Oh things will never change.” or “That is just the way has always been and the way it will always be.”  Those are the people who missed the call. They might complain and get frustrated but they don’t move on the call. The one that the heart has been telling them to act on. And now, they feel that there is nothing to be done. They drown out the sound of what they know in their hearts can change. Why? Because it feels really scary. A call from the heart is almost always asking of you to step out of your wonderful comfort zone. We can’t be all things to all problems but if you are in a situation and you get a nudge from your intuition, gut feeling, then that is your heart saying, “Hey Susan, you can do something about this. Go.  Do it.” I had an experience just like that a few years back.  And I was scared, most definitely!  But here’s the thing, when you step into your heart, you are claiming your LOVE Warrior-ness and stepping away from the scaredy cat who is afraid to make something different than what it was. Now, listen I feel I must put a disclaimer here. There is NO shame in saying no when it is too much for you.Today is about warriors so…hang for a minute with me, k?

I recently saw a great example of a love warrior in a online community of women I’m in.  She shared with us how she jumped into a situation that is scary and offered her love and support. She was asking for our prayers and love to support her through it. Without going into full details, because it is not my story, she was answering a call that came to her before her friend reached out.  She had an intuitive hit and then the next day, her friend called.  What she found out was a shock to say the least.  But instead of being immobilized and thinking of herself, she booked a flight to be there  with her friend and her family. It was a call to LOVE.  Actionable LOVE.  Some of us probably might have said the nice safe things to comfort our friend and checked back to make sure she was getting the help she needed.  But this Love Warrior, dove right in. My jaw dropped, and my heart thumped when I read her story.  I knew this was an act of pure courageous, no second-guessing, no-doubt-about-it, LOVE. And honestly, I’m kinda proud to be her friend. Like WARRIOR proud. <3

It doesn’t always happen this way for all of us. It sometimes comes in the small moments.  Take for example, the other day when a lady approached the cash register while I was in the middle of being serviced and asked for a shopping bag.  The bag cost 10 cents of which she didn’t have. I took the time to look and low and behold that was the only coin I had. 10 cents.  In my mind, it was meant for her.  She responded, “I can’t pay you back,” holding up a bigger bill, “but I will get the next person.”  I smiled wide and eyes shining, “That is a very good way to pay me back. Thank you.”  Also, standing behind me were many witnesses to this event (probably a bit impatient ones). I couldn’t help but think of the possible ripple effect this might’ve had. I know not many wouldn’t have taken the time because of the busy holiday season, rushed schedules, and the many tasks yet to be done to finish our day. But I saw this was a moment that I could do something about. People always need us love warriors to show kindness, compassion and give LOVE when it is called for no matter the size of the event or circumstance. The heart will only call to the one who has the courage to do what it takes to deliver. And to me, that is what being a Love Warrior is all about!

 

Why SHOULD is no good in matters of your heart.

I want to talk about something that has been on my mind: The almighty SHOULD.  It is a word that can single-handedly unravel anything your heart wants for you most.  If you could only make that should shut up!  “Shoulds” are tricky.  They go something like this,

  • I should be exercising.
  • I should have done this or that. 
  • I should know this by now.
  • I should call my MOM.

They can be pretty harsh and most often punitive. But let’s flip that script. Look at them through the eyes of love ( ahem, self love that is)!  When you catch yourself in this place of should-ing, stop, think of what’s important in there and throw some love all over that should.  For instance,

  • “I should be exercising.” Could be this: I love to exercise so I’m going to find more time to add it back into my schedule. Now, if you are not a lover of exercise and there is something more going on here, then be honest with yourself.  Are you saying this because you think you should be something you are not?  Can you LOVE how you are now?
  • “I should have done this or that.” Could be: I’m doing a lot right now. Maybe some things need to be adjusted so I can make room for those things that are important to me.  Here there are many ways to examine this one.  But if it comes down too much and things are slipping at the way side then maybe it’s time to figure out what you can get help with and what is truly your responsibility.  Find the love, not the fault.
  • “I should know this by now.” Could be:  I am growing in new ways and learning a lot.  I will make sure to give myself a lot of self-care and love while I’m growing in this new way.
  • “I should call my MOM.” Could be:  I’m going to call my Mom right now. OR, It’s been some time and I would like to talk to my Mom. Ok, I am going to be REAL here with you on this one. Mom’s and daughter relationships can be a complicated matter. So take this one with a bit of ease and levity.  There may need to be MORE LOVE added than this.  <3

Hopefully, you realize by some of these examples that self love is about being compassionate to yourself and not punishing.  Should comes from the place of saying, “You are not good enough and you need to be worker harder.” Well, WHO SAYS!  Your negative self talking Saboteur does. And if you remember, I told ya what that was all about over here.

I believe anyone can get to the bottom of a should. All it takes is the commitment to want out of it, focused intention and patience with yourself. Once you begin you will clear the way and then all you will hear is your heart.  

I need HELP with the shoulds!

Does this SHOULD game sound a bit too hard to go it on your own?  Maybe you need to just get started with your own should’s and then be set free to unravel their tricky tales.  Well, I’m hear to help whisper to you what your heart wants you to know and coach you on how to hear it more.  Grab some time with me for 45 minutes and let’s get beyond that should once and for all! 

How cleaning out your drawers is a practice in self-love?

Have you felt this way?  That itch to simplify your life by shedding things that you no longer need or want. Have you also been cleaning out your drawers lately?

That has been my experience recently. Usually when I feel this way I know that I am preparing for something more to enter into my life. I’m not totally aware of that at the time, by the way.  I just answer that call of “I gotta get this stuff out of my house. OR I’m gonna go crazy!” You know what I mean. I go through everything (husband & kid’s too) in the house and ask myself,

Is this necessary to keep? 

I load up bags and bags full of items that maybe someone else could use and place it by the door.  It usually takes months to make it from the bag- to the car -to the recycle center. But in my mind, it’s “organized” as on it’s way out! After finishing the tedious task of putting items in bags,  I look for other places that are FULL of unnecessary stuff and/or actions that are simply just a waste of my time & energy. Let’s take social media for instance.  That time wasting activity of scrolling on Facebook scanning and NOT reading anyone’s updates for what seems like HOURS.  Or god how I love it ..Pinterest! Same issue but more like “look at all those things I wish I could have!”   The shiny object syndrome at it’s best. 😉   And, I am a little embarrassed to admit this, sometimes I go on a YouTube binge-watching thinking “Oh it’s only one clip of James Cordon singing in his car with (fill in a famous singer you love).”  And of course the ever-addicting NETFLIX-a-thon that occurs more often then I care to mention. Hey, they put out good stuff! Educational even! Am I right?

I often do this around this time of year.  It probably is rooted in ancestry, or has to do with the weather and most definitely is matching the seasonal change. You know, because the leaves are falling. It’s natural to want to shed with them.  Whatever the case may be, it always feels good to drop things that are NO good for me any longer. 

This is self-love. Why? Because when you go through your house & life in order to de-clutter all the things that are hanging around taking space (and energy-stagnant as it may be) what you are symbolically saying is, “I’m finished and completed with this thing or that situation.  Now I’m ready for the next thing.” This is a ritual of letting go and it signals to the Universe that you are ready for something new and are willing to make the necessary changes to make room and allow for more of what you do want IN.  Who can’t get excited about that!  So… 

 So Have you cleaned out your drawers lately?  Dumped any old videos & files out of your caché?  What have you shed recently in your life?

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JUMP! for my love!

Jump!! For my love!  I’m a HUGE Pointer Sisters fan and thought it would be a fun way to “hint” at something I said in this video.  It started with this question:

If you have only 60 minutes and money is no object:  How would you spend your time? And WHAT would you do?

This is a great question to help access your true desires and hear what your heart longs for.  Your heart gives you hints on everything in life. Things like a new way of seeing a difficult situation, or sometimes it prompts you to go do that thing you want to do, or maybe it urges you to talk to that lady across the street so you can make a new friend.  But the heart whispers not yells.  So it takes practice in getting in touch with it. The results?  Well, the more you listen, and follow, the more you become someone who exclusively follows his/her heart.  And then you discover that life can be fun, full of adventure, and excitement! Desire more of those things? Then I would suggest using this question every hour and see where life takes you.

And hey if you do…tell me what happens.  I love to root for fellow heart followers!! <3

And if you are really curious watch the video and find out what my heart told me!  (GULP!).

HEART DISCLOSURE: No two hearts are the same.  
Results WILL definitely vary!!

Want more questions to help tap into your Heart?

If you are looking to hear your HEART more, the BEST way I know how to do that is to first get still and listen. The Full Heart Meditation program is NOW available to help you do just that!  CHOCK full of more inspiring questions just like the one above!

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GETTING REAL: Confessions of a Self Love Coach

I have been off camera for awhile. In this video I talk about how all, and I mean ALL of my saboteurs have shown up and ran the show! These are the ones responsible:
– Little Miss Perfect (Perfectionism with a cute name)
– Imposter Syndrome – Who am I to tell YOU anything?
– Wanting to say something that has real IMPACT – ugh this one was the biggest of all! that word impact is HUGE and can really derail a solo-preneur.
-Comparison-itis – You know this, you compare your work against another’s and decide yours is not “worthy”. Which leads to:
– “I am not GOOD enough!” or as Wayne Campbell of SNL’s* Wayne’s World says, I’m Not Worthy!

Whoa! I am here to tell you that it can happen to any of us including, and most especially, those of us in the self development industry, specifically coaching. I tell you how I worked through it and why I decided to come back.

Oh and…one I didn’t mention but is very real, “What will everyone think of me?”

 

*SNL – Saturday Night Live is an American Comedy show recorded LIVE in New York City every Saturday.  Wayne’s World was a sketch on this show with Mike Meyers and Dana Carvey.

 

Longing to connect more to yourself?

Are you experiencing a lot of Saboteurs too?  The BEST way I know how to get out of your Saboteur’s voice and more into your heart is to first get still and listen.  I offer an online program named, Full Heart Meditation program.  In this program I walk you through each life area (i.e., career, love life, etc…) that you may be experiencing your saboteurs the most!  You don’t need to know “how” to meditate.  I guide you through a visualization to help connect you back to YOU and your heart.  Find out more by clicking on the button.