How to free yourself of judgement with forgiveness

The other day I was talking with a friend and this is what I said to her,
“Human beings are not finite. We are always evolving.”
I was a little surprised when it came out but then I thought about it. Here’s what I meant.
We all go through times in our lives that we are busy with something inside. Sometimes we may be feeling sad, lonely, lost, or in the process of healing a past hurt. These things take energy and thoughtfulness to sort through for yourself. When someone is in this process they may appear to not be themselves or do and say things that are harmful.  They may not be who everyone expects or needs them to be in that moment or phase in life. But let’s say you have time stamped them to always forever be that “way”. You have chosen to keep them in that place. And you’ve decided who they are by assigning this to them and for them. This is called, judgement. And it locks you and that person in a prison of time.
Would if its many years later and they have resolved what was plaguing them inside? How do you see them? Are they still that person you think they are?
I’m sure if you are reading this you can identify on both sides of this situation. When we judge someone for something they did or the way they were we have imprisoned them into a role or deed. And in a way that traps us too. Because who were you in that time? And how is it you were the better one? Maybe you both had to grow through this shared experience no matter who was right or who was wrong. A lesson most definitely emerged for each of you. If you parted ways you will not know where or how that person grew. But would if you could forgive them and understand that these odd injustices we suffer from one another are actually gifts in service to your own personal development. But would if you don’t forgive them? And continue to hold them to that time, vilifying them as being the deed they had done instead of seeing them as they truly are, human beings who are growing and learning and making mistakes. 
Are you able to forgive?

Who do you need to release?

How can you find it in your heart to forgive yourself and the other?

AND WHY do I need to do this?

This is a controversial thought and process for sure. A few years ago a woman who survived the Holocaust forgave a man who was a Nazi in the middle of a court room. No one understood why she was doing it nor how she could do it. Her name is Eva Kor and these are her words about forgiveness.
 As I did that, I felt a burden of pain was lifted from me. I was no longer in the grip of hate; I was finally free.

Forgiveness is really nothing more than an act of self-healing and self-empowerment. I call it a miracle medicine. It is free, it works and has no side effects.

I believe with every fibre of my being that every human being has the right to live without the pain of the past.

This is not a process that you can force before you are ready. But when you are ready to forgive someone, it may take some effort just as did the thoughts of holding that person there took in the first place. Once you release the energy of judgement & resentment through forgiveness for all (both you and the person), you will see changes rapidly in your life.
I’m borrowing this prayer from Gabrielle Bernstein that is simple and a good start to freeing you and the other person.
“I choose to see this differently.”
By saying this out loud or softly in your head,  you will see a way to forgiveness and take back the power of love that resides in your heart.
One more thing, forgiveness is not about accepting bad behaviour. It is releasing the emotions that tie you to that time. It truly is a gift that comes from the heart. It’s even written in the word: FOR GIVE
And that is a powerful thing.

What do you think about forgiveness?

Who do you need to free?

Looking to interview a few good women, are you one of them?

I am doing some market research on my business. I have questions like this:

What do women really think about following their hearts and self love? 

And a few more questions like the one above. I am looking for a few good women who would be willing to jump online for a 30 minute interview.

There is no ickiness sales ploy here. If you are a woman who is willing to help me, I will give you a Top 5 Value assessment as my gift to you for helping me answer some questions related to my business. This value assessment exercise is the most valuable part of my coaching business!!!  It’s practical & useful for anything life throws at you. Once we sort out your top 5, I will show you how to use it with a live example in your life. Then you can know how to reflect on life’s questions when things feel off.

When you know your top 5 values & how to use them in your life, well my friend, you’ve tapped into your greatest resource, your heart. And that will make you unstoppable

Who am I looking to interview?

If you are:

  • woman (over age 20)
  • spiritually-minded
  • committed in anything you set your mind on
  • confidence could use a boost
  • you have burning desire to make a change in your life but maybe haven’t found a way or time.

If you hit all or most of these characteristics please sign up for a call.

Episode #18: How her courageous heart led her around the world – Maggie Giele

Featuring Maggie Giele

“But in the end I had this strong gut feeling. No I have to go. This is what I need to do.”

Maggie started her life in Prague, Czech Republic. At the ripe old age of 3 her world tour began. Moving to and living in cities such as: Salt Lake City, Chicago, and Palo Alto. It wasn’t until age 9 where they settled for Singapore. She attended AND matriculated in the local school system standing out, naturally, because of her blue eyes and blonde hair! No way could she hide when her homework wasn’t handed in. Later this fast-paced & competitive environment, which includes Formula One cars racing in the background, proved to be, isolating for Maggie. She wanted to discover more even when life was looking okay, or just fine as it was, some might say.  This is where her story really gets interesting! 

Maggie certainly knows how to face fear with a courageous heart and work beyond her limitations. Tune in to find out how she,

  • finds a University to accept mid-term!
  • moves her family across the world and changing climates
  • learns she has ADD and finds her way to manage it
  • re-calibrated her business after a debilitating burn-out

To connect with Maggie and learn more about her work please find her here:

 

Do you have a story about how you followed your heart?

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When you are reaching for a goal, what makes you unstoppable?

“In the QUEST towards any goal or dream in your life this is key: You must love & believe in yourself wholly.”

This may not always be apparent to most of us.

What is it to truly love yourself & believe yourself when you have a goal you are reaching? Does this mean it must be a constant and if it isn’t you should just give up now?

Most of us understand or know that you must believe in yourself. But love yourself?  Where does that fit in here?

When reaching for a goal or a big dream there is no straight path to succeeding. You must be prepared for fall backs, unforeseen events & obstacles, and a whole lot of challenges. These things are meant to strengthen your resolve to keep climbing up that mountain until you reach the top. But,

Would if you falter? Would if you hear the voices that beat you down that make you think in fact, you can’t do it? Who is gonna save you? Who is gonna get you through it when you are on the side of mountain, by yourself, holding on for dear life?

Here is where the love comes in.

You must be prepared to love yourself through the darkness. You must be able to self-motivate so that you can continue on and get back on course. When you fully love yourself through any type of achievement, goal or big dream you become resilient, a warrior, confident and self-assured. When your inner love is activated and strong, a wisdom comes to supports you and guides you towards your dream. 

There will always be these challenging moments along the path to success. But when  you are strong inside and love & believe in yourself wholly, when you finally grab that goal, reach that big dream or the get to the TOP of that mountain…

You will know you can do anything you want in this life. Because…You are unstoppable. 

Looking for a Few Good Women

I am doing some market research on my business & I have questions like this:

What do women really think about following their hearts and self love? 

And a few more questions like the one above. I am looking for a few good women who would be willing to jump online for a 30 minute interview.

There is no ickiness sales ploy here. If you are a woman who is willing to help me, I will give you a Top 5 Value assessment as my gift to you for helping me answer some questions related to my business. This value assessment exercise is the most valuable part of my coaching business!!!  It’s practical & useful for anything life throws at you. Once we sort out your top 5, I will show you how to use it with a live example in your life. Then you can know how to reflect on life’s questions when things feel off.

When you know your top 5 values & how to use them in your life, well my friend, you’ve tapped into your greatest resource, your heart. And that will make you unstoppable

Who am I looking to interview?

If you are:

  • woman (over age 20)
  • spiritually-minded
  • committed in anything you set your mind on
  • confidence could use a boost
  • you have burning desire to make a change in your life but maybe haven’t found a way or time.

If you hit all or most of these characteristics please sign up for a call.

What is your mission in life?

 

I remember when I was younger I always found the question, where do you want to be in the next 5 years?, frustrating and oh, a little irritating. It was usually only asked in job interviews. Which made it even worse because you had to temper it against the actual job you were going for and figure out how you might sound, say, if you really wanted that person’s, the one who is interviewing you, position. You don’t want to come off as TOO ambitious or full of yourself, right?😉

That’s not an easy situation or question neither is this what’s your mission question. It takes careful consideration & reflection. And often, it requires help and a sounding board to find it. Especially if for awhile now you have been doing things, such as staying with that job in that company that you don’t love, that aren’t necessarily in alignment with your values or your mission.

But if you don’t know what your mission is how then do you find it?

You start by listening to your heart.💓 What makes you fill up with joy? When you are doing that thing, does the time disappear? These questions are a start and how you answer them are clues. Once you know your mission, life gets easier, decisions become clearer and things get more FUN!

 

Want more help on finding your mission?

Oh hi there! If you are wondering, What is this that I’m scheduling?, then let me help a little more here. This thing would be, will be, is a 20-minute virtual call with me (the chick in the photo above with the red dress & leather jacket on) to talk through what Your Mission in life is. So you can gain a clearer picture on it, and to find out..hey maybe it is time for me to dig deeper, start moving towards that mission and find ways to live it all the time! Essentially this is a call to see if my coaching might be what your life could use right now to get you to where you are ready to go.

Sound cool? Ready to do it? I’d love to meet you. If yes, then click the button, schedule the call, find out what your mission is and to find out if we fit as a team to work together. Because it’s my mission in life to help you find yours

Episode #16: What is the Imposter really telling us?

In this podcast I’m joined by a fellow coach, Eva Visser Plaza of Eva Authentic Living. We walk through the landscape of Imposter syndrome, what is it, how we feel about it for ourselves, and how we work inside this concept with our clients, also how we learn from our clients.

Some common points that both Eva and I have are:

  • How the word SHOULD shows up
  • Often we are striving to fit in
  • we both feel the EGO is not something to rid yourself of.
  • we agree it’s more situational and less like you have a disease

Mid-way through this podcast, Eva shares with us a story that transformed herself and how she approaches things with her client. What came out of the learning was a powerful technique that she uses on herself, her clients and NOW she is giving it to US. Please click the listen button for this episode on What the Imposter is really telling us?

 

We want to know: What ways do you see the Imposter appear in your life? Would this tool that Eva gives help you to tame it?

Share in the comments!

How to get a self-love BOOST before school gets out!

Summer vacation is almost here.

If you are a Career or Business owning Mom does any of the following sound like you RIGHT NOW?

  • Are you scrambling to get those last-minute projects done for your work or business?
  • Are you running the kids to and fro school rushing to help them get what needs to be done for school or any of the activities they have planned?
  • Do you have a long list of tasks to-do so you can prepare for when we can go on vacation and relax, to enjoy the sun?
  • Have you scheduled any time for yourself?
  • Tapped into your heart to follow what you need?

If you answered NO to that last two then this is an opportunity for YOU!

I have availability for to coach 3 women. Could this be for you? A woman who wants some self-love boosts to prime HER just in time for vacation.

Because let’s face it once you GET to your destination you may not be able to unwind all.the.way! And if you had that problem before then this is really the time to get in front of it before another summer vacation is ruined with NOT ENOUGHness. That feeling comes from too much doing, running, and filling all the requirements. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to:

  • To be excited for your vacation NOT only because you get a break but because you are able to fully be present and relax?
  • Not to have to WAIT to be on vacation to find some peace and calm?
  • and not worry that not everything got done “perfectly”?

This is what these self-love BOOSTs can give you right now to prep YOU for your own vacation. How great would that be?

The design of this coaching offer will work like my Jump into your Heart sessions. They are affordable, administered in a short time frame (before your vacation AND after if you so choose). You get a free meditation of your choice to support you through your holiday. And most of all MY FULL SUPPORT! <3

But as usual, I feel we must get to know one another before we start. I have availability for consultation/intakes. This is simply a twenty minute sample to see if the coaching is right for you!

 

FAQ-Frequently Asked Questions

What is the offer? I’m offering 3 women Self-Love Boost coaching before (and after) their vacation. This would be 3 or up to 6 coaching appointments.

How does this work? Schedule an appointment with me for a virtual call. We will have a twenty minute consultation/intake with some coaching included. If you love it we go forward if not then we don’t.

What happens in the intake? Each woman has different challenges. But as an example, it may go something like this:

As a busy Mompreneur or Career Mom, there are a number of things that just need to be done. I would want to find out,

Where you are leaking most of your energy?

What activities you are doing to help support your self-love (if any) now?

The goal of the intake would be how we can create a plan/practice on supporting you on the must-do lists while still honoring your time to rejuvenate your energy.

Is this a huge long coaching program? Nope. These sessions will still be 1 hour in length to give you the most value but they will be given in quick order not over months. They are affordable so not too much going out of the purse before the holiday. 

HOW MUCH? If you are anything like me, you need to know the bottom line and what it costs. I am basing this quick self-love boost program on the Jump into your Heart coaching sessions. In our intake call, we decide how many sessions you feel you need. Each session costs,44,00 (not including tax/BTW). 

My kids are already out of school (live in a different country), is this still available to me? Yes indeed this is still available to you. We can create your sessions around times the kids are sleeping or while they are away at day camp. This is a fully customizable offer (as all my offers are) designed to give you a boost now. 

Ready to see if this is for you?

Schedule your virtual coffee/tea with me below!