How to free yourself of judgement with forgiveness

The other day I was talking with a friend and this is what I said to her,
“Human beings are not finite. We are always evolving.”
I was a little surprised when it came out but then I thought about it. Here’s what I meant.
We all go through times in our lives that we are busy with something inside. Sometimes we may be feeling sad, lonely, lost, or in the process of healing a past hurt. These things take energy and thoughtfulness to sort through for yourself. When someone is in this process they may appear to not be themselves or do and say things that are harmful.  They may not be who everyone expects or needs them to be in that moment or phase in life. But let’s say you have time stamped them to always forever be that “way”. You have chosen to keep them in that place. And you’ve decided who they are by assigning this to them and for them. This is called, judgement. And it locks you and that person in a prison of time.
Would if its many years later and they have resolved what was plaguing them inside? How do you see them? Are they still that person you think they are?
I’m sure if you are reading this you can identify on both sides of this situation. When we judge someone for something they did or the way they were we have imprisoned them into a role or deed. And in a way that traps us too. Because who were you in that time? And how is it you were the better one? Maybe you both had to grow through this shared experience no matter who was right or who was wrong. A lesson most definitely emerged for each of you. If you parted ways you will not know where or how that person grew. But would if you could forgive them and understand that these odd injustices we suffer from one another are actually gifts in service to your own personal development. But would if you don’t forgive them? And continue to hold them to that time, vilifying them as being the deed they had done instead of seeing them as they truly are, human beings who are growing and learning and making mistakes. 
Are you able to forgive?

Who do you need to release?

How can you find it in your heart to forgive yourself and the other?

AND WHY do I need to do this?

This is a controversial thought and process for sure. A few years ago a woman who survived the Holocaust forgave a man who was a Nazi in the middle of a court room. No one understood why she was doing it nor how she could do it. Her name is Eva Kor and these are her words about forgiveness.
 As I did that, I felt a burden of pain was lifted from me. I was no longer in the grip of hate; I was finally free.

Forgiveness is really nothing more than an act of self-healing and self-empowerment. I call it a miracle medicine. It is free, it works and has no side effects.

I believe with every fibre of my being that every human being has the right to live without the pain of the past.

This is not a process that you can force before you are ready. But when you are ready to forgive someone, it may take some effort just as did the thoughts of holding that person there took in the first place. Once you release the energy of judgement & resentment through forgiveness for all (both you and the person), you will see changes rapidly in your life.
I’m borrowing this prayer from Gabrielle Bernstein that is simple and a good start to freeing you and the other person.
“I choose to see this differently.”
By saying this out loud or softly in your head,  you will see a way to forgiveness and take back the power of love that resides in your heart.
One more thing, forgiveness is not about accepting bad behaviour. It is releasing the emotions that tie you to that time. It truly is a gift that comes from the heart. It’s even written in the word: FOR GIVE
And that is a powerful thing.

What do you think about forgiveness?

Who do you need to free?

Looking to interview a few good women, are you one of them?

I am doing some market research on my business. I have questions like this:

What do women really think about following their hearts and self love? 

And a few more questions like the one above. I am looking for a few good women who would be willing to jump online for a 30 minute interview.

There is no ickiness sales ploy here. If you are a woman who is willing to help me, I will give you a Top 5 Value assessment as my gift to you for helping me answer some questions related to my business. This value assessment exercise is the most valuable part of my coaching business!!!  It’s practical & useful for anything life throws at you. Once we sort out your top 5, I will show you how to use it with a live example in your life. Then you can know how to reflect on life’s questions when things feel off.

When you know your top 5 values & how to use them in your life, well my friend, you’ve tapped into your greatest resource, your heart. And that will make you unstoppable

Who am I looking to interview?

If you are:

  • woman (over age 20)
  • spiritually-minded
  • committed in anything you set your mind on
  • confidence could use a boost
  • you have burning desire to make a change in your life but maybe haven’t found a way or time.

If you hit all or most of these characteristics please sign up for a call.

Episode #18: How her courageous heart led her around the world – Maggie Giele

Featuring Maggie Giele

“But in the end I had this strong gut feeling. No I have to go. This is what I need to do.”

Maggie started her life in Prague, Czech Republic. At the ripe old age of 3 her world tour began. Moving to and living in cities such as: Salt Lake City, Chicago, and Palo Alto. It wasn’t until age 9 where they settled for Singapore. She attended AND matriculated in the local school system standing out, naturally, because of her blue eyes and blonde hair! No way could she hide when her homework wasn’t handed in. Later this fast-paced & competitive environment, which includes Formula One cars racing in the background, proved to be, isolating for Maggie. She wanted to discover more even when life was looking okay, or just fine as it was, some might say.  This is where her story really gets interesting! 

Maggie certainly knows how to face fear with a courageous heart and work beyond her limitations. Tune in to find out how she,

  • finds a University to accept mid-term!
  • moves her family across the world and changing climates
  • learns she has ADD and finds her way to manage it
  • re-calibrated her business after a debilitating burn-out

To connect with Maggie and learn more about her work please find her here:

 

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When you want to find the truth? Ask a few good women.

Every now and again we go through times where we need to bring a little clarity into our lives. This is such a time for me. I’ve been moving through a lot of changes in the last few years but I might’ve lost touch with my business message and audience. When things like this come up it’s a good idea to turn to friends, family or people who can offer a good glance at what you might not be seeing. And so with that in mind, I’m not afraid to ask…

Would you be a woman willing to have a 30-minute interview with me?

 

Okay I know you need a wee-bit more information then that so here is what it is all about!

I’m looking to speak to a few women about things like:

  • What does self-love mean to you?
  • How do you achieve your goals in life?

Really simple questions. I am not someone who doesn’t recognize that we all have busy lives and schedules. I value your time. Because of that I believe it should be gifted with generosity & a free gift. 

After our interview is all said and done, I’m gifting to you a Top 5 Value assessment. This value assessment exercise is the most valuable part of my coaching business!!!  What is it exactly? Well, we sort out your top 5 most important core values. Then I will show you how to use this information with a live example in your life.This is a practical tool you can use whatever life throws at you. 

And let me just say that when you know your top 5 values & how to use them in your life, well my friend, you’ve tapped into your greatest resource, your heart. Now you might be asking…

Who, in the heck, am I looking to interview? If you are,

  • a woman (over age 20)
  • spiritually-minded
  • when you set your sights on something you are committed and focused
  • self-confidence/worth could use a boost
  • you have burning desire to make a change in your life but maybe haven’t found a way or time.

If you hit all or most of these characteristics please sign up for a call. 

When you are reaching for a goal, what makes you unstoppable?

“In the QUEST towards any goal or dream in your life this is key: You must love & believe in yourself wholly.”

This may not always be apparent to most of us.

What is it to truly love yourself & believe yourself when you have a goal you are reaching? Does this mean it must be a constant and if it isn’t you should just give up now?

Most of us understand or know that you must believe in yourself. But love yourself?  Where does that fit in here?

When reaching for a goal or a big dream there is no straight path to succeeding. You must be prepared for fall backs, unforeseen events & obstacles, and a whole lot of challenges. These things are meant to strengthen your resolve to keep climbing up that mountain until you reach the top. But,

Would if you falter? Would if you hear the voices that beat you down that make you think in fact, you can’t do it? Who is gonna save you? Who is gonna get you through it when you are on the side of mountain, by yourself, holding on for dear life?

Here is where the love comes in.

You must be prepared to love yourself through the darkness. You must be able to self-motivate so that you can continue on and get back on course. When you fully love yourself through any type of achievement, goal or big dream you become resilient, a warrior, confident and self-assured. When your inner love is activated and strong, a wisdom comes to supports you and guides you towards your dream. 

There will always be these challenging moments along the path to success. But when  you are strong inside and love & believe in yourself wholly, when you finally grab that goal, reach that big dream or the get to the TOP of that mountain…

You will know you can do anything you want in this life. Because…You are unstoppable. 

Looking for a Few Good Women

I am doing some market research on my business & I have questions like this:

What do women really think about following their hearts and self love? 

And a few more questions like the one above. I am looking for a few good women who would be willing to jump online for a 30 minute interview.

There is no ickiness sales ploy here. If you are a woman who is willing to help me, I will give you a Top 5 Value assessment as my gift to you for helping me answer some questions related to my business. This value assessment exercise is the most valuable part of my coaching business!!!  It’s practical & useful for anything life throws at you. Once we sort out your top 5, I will show you how to use it with a live example in your life. Then you can know how to reflect on life’s questions when things feel off.

When you know your top 5 values & how to use them in your life, well my friend, you’ve tapped into your greatest resource, your heart. And that will make you unstoppable

Who am I looking to interview?

If you are:

  • woman (over age 20)
  • spiritually-minded
  • committed in anything you set your mind on
  • confidence could use a boost
  • you have burning desire to make a change in your life but maybe haven’t found a way or time.

If you hit all or most of these characteristics please sign up for a call.

Episode 17: When you surrender to your passion over fear – Maria-Ines Fuenmayor

Featuring Maria-Ines Fuenmayor

Here is a woman who has seen it all and still landed on her feet. At an early age, she developed a love for travel. “I blame this on my parents,” is how she remembers it. Her fascinating story unravels several things that really gets you to the core of who Maria-Ines is and how she has come to rely on herself with each transition in her life.

“Because the passion was bigger than fear that, you know, any situation could have given me.”

During this interview she shares how she went from studying architecture to becoming a humanitarian. How she moves from Venezuela to Washington D.C. and working on assignment in Nigeria. And then in a major turn of events how she followed her heart and bought a one-way ticket into a WAR zone!!!!!

Through it all she stayed the course by following her passion (and heart) by leaving her fear behind. Take a journey into Maria-Ines’ world and hear her words,

“I truly, very strongly believe that if you educate women you educate a society.

To connect with Maria-Ines and her work please find her here:

 

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